89 - Trying Softer, Self Compassion, & Moving from Survival to Joy (feat. Aundi Kolber)
It’s 2020! Robert & Holly talk about New Year’s intentions in the intro, and then chat with trauma therapist Aundi Kolber about her new book Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy. Aundi talks about attachment, being compassionate with ourselves, expanding our window of tolerance, white-knuckling through life, and listening to our bodies.
Things we mention in this episode/other resources:
- Thrive Neurology
- Stephanie Smith’s Slant Letter newsletter on writing reflectively, not reactively.
- CXMH ep. 32 - Trauma, Attachment, & Creating Safety (feat. Aundi Kolber)
- CXMH ep. 42 - Everyday Grief & Learning to Feel Feelings (feat. Aundi Kolber)
Connect with Aundi on her website, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, or buy Try Softer on Amazon.
Quotes:
- “Trauma is anything that overwhelms our nervous system and our ability to cope.” (tweet)
- “In a Western culture, we highly value cognitive knowledge. But we don’t really value experiential embodied knowledge, which I would argue is the essence of true knowledge.” (tweet)
- “It’s vital that we begin to make space for our own stories.” (tweet)
- “Most of us have parts of our story that carry some pain. That can continue to live literally in our body.” (tweet)
Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!
Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.
Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.
Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.
Ways to support CXMH:
- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!
- give a one-time gift using PayPal
- Do your Amazon shopping through this link
- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play
- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support
- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here
- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.
Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.